Couples have a unique perspective on life. They have the opportunity to have a deep relationship with a partner while they continue to deepen their experience of themselves. The issues that emerge for couples therefore are two fold, one set of issues with the partner, and then another set with the self. I’ve seen that what a couple often needs is a moment of clarity around making the distinctions between these two areas.
The work I do with couples is about the dynamic changes that being together manifests as well as finding a common ground for clarity and how to proceed into the future. Couples often think that the love between them should be enough to sustain their relationship and that they should just be able to be comfortable with that. Many couples frequently settle for co-existing with a multitude of compromises that do not foster a deeper relating. The reality is that most people need to do some work for their relationship to thrive.
The benefits of doing couples work is that there is the therapist there who is holding the space for livable agreements to be worked out, to have a third neutral party to reflect the dynamics of the couple, and to have time set aside for the necessary integration of two lives. We can explore those issues that are fundamental to couples and to craft a deeper more loving relationship for both of you.
Oak Creek Counseling Center
999 Sutter Street
San Francisco, CA 94109
1-888-637-7404 Ext. 55
Kurt Wagner, M.A.
Marriage Family Therapist Intern #61754
Stephen Polin, M.A., MFT License #7861