Your name is a word that you’ve heard many times. It was imprinted and anchored to you by your parents, teachers, and friends for years and years. How it’s been said throughout your life often shapes how you respond to it.

There have been people in your life who may have said your name sweetly and when someone new says it that way it brings back a taste of that sugar. Think back to a time when you’ve had a lover say your name and how good that felt, especially when tied to the feeling of being in love.

Conversely, when someone has said your name in anger or punitively,  your body and psyche often reacts with a memory of that original event. And if you have had numerous events like that, there can be a cascading effect of these events into the present moment. If you’ve ever had someone who spoke your name enough with an edge to it, it may be some time to do some healing around it.

A healing around this can occur by doing a number of things, a couple of them that are very simple and deeply affecting follow. The first is to look at yourself in the mirror and thinking to yourself, “I love you.” while you simultaneously say your name out loud. This is a NLP anchor that attaches your image and I Love You to your name. In the beginning, feel free to do it everyday so that eventually when you hear your name a warm feeling of self becomes resonates

The second technique is to enroll an intimate physical partner.  This requires that you prep them ahead of time so that while you’re making love they are ready to deliver the content. How it works is that at the moment of your orgasm, your partner softly says your name a few times while caressing your body. This is an example of  somatic anchor,  an auditory component, and a peak experience. These anchors are very robust and will provide a deep somatic healing to your bodymind.

So, go have fun with this and let me know how it goes.